“The second law of thermodynamics states that the total entropy of an isolated system can only increase over time. It can remain constant in ideal cases where the system is in a steady state (equilibrium) or undergoing a reversible process. The idea of entropy comes from a principle of thermodynamics dealing with energy. It usually refers to the idea that everything in the universe eventually moves from order to disorder, and entropy is the measurement of that change.” – Google
Apply this to marriage and family. Family especially a marriage will move from order to disorder unless a outside force greater than entropy interacts to reverse it back to order.
Want your marriage to fall apart? Do nothing! Want your family to fall apart? Do nothing? Matter of fact it remains true that if you want both of these key relationships in your life to fall apart keep doing the same thing day in and day out. The law of entropy guarantees that these relationships will eventually fall into disorder if there are not constant positive measures made to keep the system in order.
So what can we do? Glad you asked. Two things right off the top of my head.
1. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Want to see a system falling into disorder? Continue to lean and trust in your own reason, history, and perception. Place these three over God, your spouse, kids, and trusted advisors and you have the perfect equation for disorder. To create order you have to seek the advice of your spouse, kids, and trusted advisors. Without external influence this law says your system will trend towards disorder. Time to get over your own self righteousness and arrogance.
2. I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Guess what since you are no longer alive go ahead and give up your own rights, desires, and perceptions for the order of the marriage and family. Want to cause disorder in these relationships? Continue to live a selfish life where everything is based on your own rights, desires, and perceptions.
I now live life from the perspective of faith that with external advice, work, time, and trust in each other that we can turn these relationships around from disorder to order. The greatest realities you can bring to your marriage is faith, hope, and love. They are the only three relatives that will exist for all time.